How to join in a group conversation

If you go to parties with close friends, it is easy to join in on the discussions because you know the people and feel comfortable about how to act and talk. This may be different when you go to a function where you do not know the people as well and may feel awkward about joining in on a conversation that is already in progress. By learning a few etiquette guidelines, you can easily become a part of the discussion without offending anyone. Read on to learn how to join a group conversation.

Step 1

Keep in mind that there are different types of conversations. Some that appear very accessible to join, and others that seem to be closed off to others. When you see people talking softly or speaking very close to one another, it is best to leave them alone. It is likely to be a private conversation.

Step 2

Watch a conversation for a brief time before joining in. Listen to what they are discussing, and feel comfortable adding your thoughts at a natural break in the conversation. After your comment, introduce yourself to the others and apologise for breaking in. More than likely, they will pleasantly accept you into the conversation.

Step 3

Listen quietly to the conversation for a moment. If it is specifically about a work situation or other private topic, go on to another group. If you do not know anything about the topic, but it interests you, do not feel uncomfortable just standing with the group and listening. If the group is discussing a topic that interests you in one of the more sensitive topics of religion, politics or sex, be careful of giving your opinion if it is contrary to those talking. As long as you do not come across forcefully and negatively, it is appropriate to express your opinion. Be prepared, however, for a backlash if everyone in the conversation feels differently.

Step 4

Use positive body language when joining a discussion. Have a pleasant look on your face and your arms uncrossed. This way you are inviting others to welcome you. If the topic is of interest and you are not making any comments at the moment, wait for a break and politely ask, "May I join you?" If you see any negative body language or get the sense that the group does not want to be interrupted at the moment, do not feel offended. Nicely say something like, "I’ll join you later."

Exercise

Using the vocabulary in the panel on the right, complete these sentences:

1) If you do not know the people who are conversing, approach them with ………………and ……………. yourself when you are able to.

2) Do not …………… the conversation immediatley. Remember to be …………..

3) Try not to be too …………..when expressing your ……………… as you do not want to ………….. anyone.

4) If you find the ………. of a conversation too ……………. for your liking you do not have to join in, and can depart quietly

5) Do not be afraid to express your…………….., even if it is ……………to other peoples’, but be aware that controversy can sometimes cause a ……………………..

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